How you and your partner can build a healthy relationship

How you and your partner can build a healthy relationship

Whether you’re looking for new ways to win over your crush or reignite the fire in your relationship, it would be a good idea to review your relationship habits. Healthy relationships don’t happen on their own, and building them requires hard work, patience, and time.  Nevertheless, building a healthy relationship is possible.

Here are some habits you can adopt to make your relationship stronger:

Have some ‘me time’

It’s vital to have some ‘me time’ while you’re in a relationship. Make time for your hobbies, passions, and other activities you enjoyed before your relationship started. When your partner sees you in your element doing the things you love, they will remember the initial attraction they had to you. In any case, being together every second of the day can be a little boring since there’ll be nothing new to talk about.

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Spend time together

Being intentional about spending time together is vital to a healthy relationship. When you and your partner spend time together, you become familiar and encourage positive feelings towards each other. When you’re in an environment that enhances a positive feeling like the beach, or a restaurant, you can transfer the positive energy to the person you’re sharing the experience with.

In addition, spending time together gives you the opportunity to check in with your partner. Life sometimes gets hectic and couples can switch to autopilot. When you plan check-ins with your partner, both of you are mentally ready to offer each other the space you need to resolve, plan, and explore.

Couples in healthy relationships will always find ways to connect emotionally and physically even when they’re busy. This could look like not looking at your phone and being attentive while your partner vents about their hard week. When you and your partner connect emotionally, you enhance feelings of intimacy and trust that keep you together and happy.

Fight fairly

Every relationship sees its fair share of challenge, arguments, and disagreements. Sometimes, we experience these challenges more that we expect or want. But that doesn’t mean that your relationship is unhealthy. How you and your partner handle challenge and resolve conflicts will determine the health of your relationship.

When couples fight, sometimes they don’t remember that the end game of conflict resolution is to be unified and remind each other of their shared goals. Fighting fair means you and your partner avoid what Dr. John Gottman, author and marriage researcher calls the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse. These are defensiveness, stonewalling, contempt, and criticism.

If you or your partner bring any of these aspects to conflict resolution, you risk watering down the sustainability of your relationship.

Ask for what you need

Remember that your partner isn’t a mind reader and it would be unfair to keep them guessing about what you need in the relationship. You are both different and will have varying world views, experiences, and thoughts.

If you need something from your partner or the relationship, it’s up to you to communicate your feelings, needs, and wants effectively. Stay away from assumptions. You and your partner should make it a habit to talk openly about your needs and desires.